Discipline goes hand in hand with parenting. It is always very
difficult to say I won’t discipline my children. As parents we have
the role to bring up our children in the way they should go and when
they grow old, they will never depart from it.
What is Discipline?
According to the Longman dictionary of contemporary English, Discipline is
“A way of training someone so that they learn to control their
behavior and obey rules”.
‘’ The ability to control your own behaviour, so that you do what you
are expected to do”’
“A way of training your mind or learning to control your behavior”’
These three definitions when applied to discipline in parenting simply
means we are training our children to learn to control their behavior
and obey rules so that they will become better adults.
Every society has rules and these rules must be obeyed.
There are different approaches to discipline when it comes to
parenting. It is the approach we adopt that matters.
In our environment today most people always think of spanking as the
only form of discipline when it comes to children. The harsh verbal
abuse used on our children has been linked to cause mental health
problems in preteens and adolescents amongst other negative side
In the western world, there has been a loud campaign that spanking
does more harm than good to our children.
Although in Nigeria, spanking is still seen as an effective means of
parenting discipline, we can adopt a more positive approach to child
• You can raise better children by playing the role model of what you
want them to become.
• Use timeouts as a means of discipline.
• Screen time reduction
In all the key to effective child discipline is by being consistent
with the set rules and expectations.
Don’t expect a 4-year old to behave like a 10-year old.
Children are children and will change as they grow older, sometimes
they do certain things to test your patience.
Every child is unique and distinct, what works for child A might not work for child B.
Observe and monitor each child’s character and find out the approach that suits his personality.
Sometimes you need to ignore a lot of advice and find out exactly what works for each child.
— As parents, using the words of the Holy Scripture in Proverbs 13: 24
“If you don’t punish your children, you don’t love them. If you do
love them, you will correct them”
A little discipline is okay to put our young ones on the right path.
Do not turn your children into punching bags in the name of