Coping with child raising is a conundrum most working mums are yet to find solutions to. There are many reasons for this problem, but this discourse would rather focus on solutions, and here are a few of them:
PLAN CHILD BEARING:
One of the biggest issues with child raising is failure to plan child bearing.
Understandably, African women are expected to marry early, when their career is still budding, and then go ahead to start bearing children, thereby hampering their career or making them struggle with child raising –depending on which one they pay more attention to.
So I knew this woman from my university days who was very brilliant. We finished school and she got a lucrative job with a communications firm in Lagos. But last time I saw her, she had issues at home: she couldn’t cope with child raising because she didn’t have enough time. Her husband didn’t help matters because he wouldn’t support her in any way, yet her family needed the extra money she was bringing in.
It is important, therefore, that working mothers insist on proper planning before getting married. Working mothers have to decide whether to pause their career and get done with childbearing or whatever else.
EMPLOY A NANNY:
The world has evolved a lot and mothers can no longer be held back in ages past.
With proper planning, a working mother can engage the services of an adult nanny who looks after children when the mum is at work. The age of the nanny is an important factor given that the mum in question will have to resume work when the baby is still very young.
There is need, therefore, for an older person who has had the experience of child bearing and/or child raising. The nanny comes in the morning and leaves when the mum returns from work.
This is usually a risky venture as it is difficult to get someone who will apply all caution and care in raising children, but if a mum does her part by paying the nanny well and being prayerful and vigilant, it is a chance worth taking.
Many mums have got along with this option.
MAKE UP FOR LOST TIME:
When a mum is away at work, the toddlers are usually left with nannies, and very often when the mum is back from work, she’s too tired to attend to her children.
Understandably, it can be very difficult for many mums, but it is not ideal.
A working mum has to find ways to make up for lost time when they are not at work. She has to find time to play with her child to encourage bonding and trust.
In conclusion, parenting is now a harder job than ever, but where there’s the will, there’ll always be a way!Share!